Kimball's first words were Mama and Dada. You gotta love those two words. I can't help but feel guilty that his next two were NO and Don't. When you see them get into something they are not supposed to then of course one tends to say no. Then no is exactly what he learns to say. I started trying new words like stop or don't and his next word was don't. I can't help but flip out if I see him speed into the bathroom and head for something to do with the toilet. Immediately the words NO! or Don't fly out of my mouth. What is a mother to do?
Does anyone else have this problem? Better yet, does anyone have a solution? Dave thinks that we should start saying yes, but wouldn't that just confuse him? My friend Tammy told be that if you speak positive to your kids they can learn up to 60 words a day, but if negatively spoken to, they learn a lot less. For example you nicely ask, "what are you doing?" The negative example would be yelling "No." When looking at it that way it is bad to say no all of the time. Then again I think to myself, "how else will they learn what not to do?" I just throw my hands in the air and do the best that I can.
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Now that he's starting to talk, I guess it's my job to teach him some fun words (he, he).
I just knew that this day would come. The day that all of Dave's siblings get even with Dave through teaching our children crap things to say. I know that Michelle vows to teach Kimball "fun words", because Dave taught Even things. I suspect my son will learn to burp on command from you...LOL
I think I wrote a post a while ago about giving up parenting books. "In theory" all kinds of things are true. "In real life" it's all about instinct and inspiration. Trust yourself. Trust the Lord. Stay close to Him and all will be well.
Thanks mammamia. That is good advice. It is somtimes hard not to second guess myself.
Instead of saying "No" all the time, tell them what they can do. Instead of stopping their curiosity, redirect it. that's seemed to help me, and the kids feel more in control of something which makes for a happier, positive kid!
Thanks Amy. That sounds like good advice.
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